Divorce is much more than a rational decision by two adults that they should not be married anymore. For most people, it’s painful and emotional, even if you are the one to file or you both want a divorce. Even more so in cases where only one spouse wants to split up. No matter the circumstances, the prospect of divorce churns up a range of emotions most of the time.
Still, the best thing most of the time is to set aside emotion as much as possible. There is a lot to determine, such as how to divide up the marital property and with which parent the children will live most of the time. Some couples are able to avoid traditional divorce entirely, turning instead to things like mediation and collaborative divorce.
Mediation: Readers have probably heard of business disputes going to mediation, but it is also available for divorcing spouses. Mediation is a form of alternative dispute resolution. The parties go to a mediator, who is a neutral third party. The mediator guides the negotiations to help the spouses reach a settlement.
Collaborative divorce. This option involves each spouse bringing their divorce attorney, who helps negotiate a settlement. Often, as in traditional divorce, experts such as social workers, accountants and child custody specialists will weigh in.
These options work for some couples, but are not appropriate for everyone. Many divorcing couples cannot stand being in the same room together, let alone sit down at the negotiation table. And when domestic violence is an issue, nobody should be forced to try to settle with their violent ex.
Ohio’s divorce system strives to make each side play by the rules, while giving spouses every chance to settle their case. Please speak to a divorce attorney for more information.
Source: Forbes, “Avoiding The Financial Pitfalls Of Divorce,” Michael F. Kay, Apr. 12, 2016